The Peaceful Home

Episode 36: How the Power of Your Voice Can Change Your Life with Aideen Ni Riada

July 05, 2022 Pamela Godbois
The Peaceful Home
Episode 36: How the Power of Your Voice Can Change Your Life with Aideen Ni Riada
Show Notes Transcript

In this week’s episode, I sat with Intuitive Voice Coach, Mentor, and Singer Aideen Ni Riada, an expert on all things voice, both your physical voice and voice from an energetic perspective. Aideen is teaching her students how to find their voice, and build confidence by stepping into the challenge and find more joy. From the use of your words to the practice of understanding self, Aideen encourages all who listen to find their true and authentic voice and embrace what brings them joy. 


Aideen is an Intuitive Voice Coach, Mentor, and Singer who can help you to sing & live joyfully by transforming your self-doubt into self-confidence! Aideen is an Intuitive Voice Coach, Mentor, and Singer who can help you to sing & live joyfully by transforming your self-doubt into self-confidence! Aideen also hosts the Confidence In Singing Podcast. Guests include singers and voice experts who share their journey and insights to encourage singing for health, happiness, and fun!



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In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Aideen shares her journey to greater joy and happiness, and it’s not by having the perfect life. 
  • Aideen shares her favorite strategus to change perspective in a powerful and lasting way. 
  • Learn how to use your voice to build confidence in business and life. 
  • Embracing the shadow work, the old stories and the hurt as a path to clarity on what truly matters in your life. 
  • Aideen shares her favorite side effects of singing, and how you can achieve those as well. 
  • Learn to live the life you have, and let go of that which is not yours to worry about. 
  • What you listen to, what you sing and what you fill your life with matters, Aideen explains why. 
  • Learn a new way to set intentions, and have the life you want with ease! 


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Pam:

Welcome back to the out of your mind podcast. On today's episode, I had the chance to sit down with Aideen, from confidence in singing. Now for Aideen singing is her passion, but it's not what she's always done. Not as a career anyway. And she shares her journey. Of embracing, bringing more music and fun and joy into her life. And she will teach you. How to do the same. So, whether you're looking to have an amazing singing voice. Or whether you're just looking for some more confidence. To eliminate self doubt and shift into a new perspective about yourself and your story. This episode is for you. Let's jump in. Hey guys. It's Pam here. And before we hop into today's episode, uh, just wants to share with you an opportunity. To get away for a long weekend with myself and a bunch of other amazing women. So, if you are looking to create some more inner peace to cultivate more joy and connection in your life. This is the weekend for you. You'll have the opportunity to practice yoga, meditate, eat amazing food. Have other people care for you? And your only job is to focus on yourself. So if you're a woman who is feeling like you just need a break. This is the break for you. So join me for a long weekend in Vermont, in August. There's nothing like Vermont's nights. To get some amazing sleep. And to cultivate all that you need in your life. So, if you're interested, there's a link in the show notes, or you can DM me on Instagram and I would be happy. To share all the info and answer any questions that you might have. Hope to see you in Vermont. Now let's dive in to this episode with Aideen. Thank you so much for being here today and being willing to share your story and what you're doing and how you're impacting people's lives.

Aideen:

Thank you. It's an honor to be here. Thank you so much. It's crazy because I think when you start doing things that you enjoy and you, revolve your life around that, to the point where you even work at something that you enjoy, it creates a momentum and it takes away some of the heaviness sometimes that we associate with work. And for me, it's actually helped me create, figure out what my message. Well, my mission is, and it's almost like that's created the, a movement and the movement has kind of really come into it's four in the last, in the last short while, because I ran a summit around my passion for voice, because I'm an intuitive voice coach. And I believe that, music and singing and voice work can be a tool to unlock empowerment and unlock healing and unlock, success and abundance for. So, and I, I, it comes down to what's the inner voice saying, and then when we get that into an aligned place and figure out what that's trying to say to us, cause sometimes that inner voices telling us what songs to sing, and those can be sad songs. Right. And then we find a way past that healing process. We're all going through. And then we can start to really make a bigger impact along the journey and definitely. It gets better. It does get better. I have to say everybody listening, hold your ground because things do get better. Yeah.

Pam:

And I love like when, when we first connected and you were, and I was like, oh, she's an intuitive voice coach. That's really cool. And then we got on before we hit record and you're like, I helped people find their voice and I immediately went to being a therapist, right. I went to finding my voice, energetically, understanding my point of view, being able to speak my truth. And that's actually what you're talking about. And I was like, oh, she's talking about her. You're like singing voice. And you're like, yeah, that's a component of it, but that's not the whole piece. And so I'm really fascinated about your story about like how you ended up here. What does that journey look like?

Aideen:

Oh, it's so interesting. Cause I think when it comes down to, singing, once when you listen to a song and it touches you, it's because the singer has a touched into their, their truth, they really feel that song. And you received the communication. You feel it with them because they have their authentic truth coming through in the song. And for me, I loved singing because that was when I felt. My own truth. That's when I felt like me. And so my journey begins with wanting to be heard, wanting people to hear that part of me. My cousin it was around the same age as me. She used to have a song like in Ireland, it's, it's more common, I suppose, people to have a song that they sing or, when you get together with family, you'd be like, okay, so-and-so will do that poem and so-and-so will sing that song. And might cause. Father Brian had studied music and he's an awesome singer. Or as we say an amazing singer, I live in the us now. So all of my language is a little bit backwards. But he would say to my cousin, okay, it's time for you to sing somewhere over the rainbow. And he would ask her to sing the song in front of family in front of the whole crowd. And I just wanted that to be. My dad never asked me to sing a song in front of anyone. And I think that's where, that wound the thing that wounds us is the thing that matters to us. Like we care about that, that tank, like some other kids wouldn't have cared that their dad didn't ask them to sing a song in front of a crowd. People in Mali kids would be like, thank God he didn't ask me, but I wanted to be asked. So that showed what I care about. And I think sometimes when we have wounds and we have painful stories, we don't acknowledge the fact that that's showing. Who we are at a very deep level and that's something to pay attention to and to try to move past. Cause that's where we find strengths following a painful situation. That's where sometimes our our message and our mission becomes very clear. But it still took me a very long time. So that was in my, my, as a kid. I, I did, music and I did musical theater in school. I was in the church choir. My mother, my mother is a choir leader, so I would sing a lot of church music. I loved at jingles on the TV. No, there was one from Australia with a kangaroo called skinny. Basically like Lassie Australia style and the song went through and I would learn the whole thing I could go on. It gets harder actually. And that's where I learned my little skills in singing, because I was just fascinated. I was interested. I was curious about these things. And so I went along, I studied some singing. Well, while I was studying in university, I went and studied psychology of huge interest in the mind and how people think. And I was interested in languages. I studied German and French during my high school years. And in college I studied Italian and German for first year and I S I continued with just Italian and I also later on worked in a Japanese company and learned some basic Japanese, but I was always fascinated by the way we structure our language and the way we say our words actually has an effect on how we think. So people in Germany thinks slightly differently about certain things and there's phrases that are used in say, even native American language that are about, we're all whole, and we're all one that we don't use in the English language. So it's it's hard for conceptual. We have a different understanding based on where we were brought up and what language we use and what terminology we used. So that was very big interest of mine. But I said it wasn't singing and I didn't know what to do after university because the college course that I did didn't lead me directly into a master's program. I would have had to take a two year diploma. Today to do educational psychology, which was my interest at the time. So I did PR for a while, while I was doing PR I was in another musical theater show in my hometown, loved it. But my dad was like, yeah, get a proper job. Do PR. Right. So did PR for awhile and I. Just, I couldn't make any money out of it. Anyway, it was like an internship. And then I worked for Japan airlines for five years. I was a cabin crew. I was like on a would you like a drink? And all the musical sounds in there, and I enjoyed it, but I wasn't being. And I looked back at that time now, and I can feel the sadness of my soul for that time, because I liked the traveling. I loved buying a magazine every time I flew, I love putting on the nail Polish and with the fake turn, I love meeting new people all the time. But nobody got to know me in that time because I wasn't doing the thing that was important to me. Music. And it took me a long time to come around to it again. So when I was 28, I was at another changing point of my life. I went to a seminar thing and at the end of the seminar at one of the participants said to me, Aideen, what's your dream? And I said, I want to be a singer, but I can't do that. This time. I heard myself saying this time, this time I heard myself tell myself Aideen, you can't do that. And I realized that if I could tell myself that I could do it, I might have a chance. So that was the beginning of a journey where I went on a journey of personal discovery. I started with NLP and getting my mind to think new things and forcing things into my brain, blah, blah, blah. And I came to a halt with that because it didn't really work for me. I had to go deeper. I couldn't just put new thoughts in my head. I had to. Figure it out from the beginning, I actually ended up back at home at my mom's place and started meditating. And I did a type of meditation called mantra, meditation, Japa yoga. And that was when things changed for me. And it just got better and better. And there's a whole nother journey there. It was like phase two of the journey. So. I guess the biggest turning point for me in that journey was after I'd been meditating for a while. I did another show in my hometown. I was Betty and white Christmas and they enjoyed it. And I asked almost, I went, please let me do more with music in my life. And I don't mind if I work at other things, but I want music to be a bigger part of my life. And I had what I call it a divine inspiration. And I know it was a divine inspiration because I didn't want. I couldn't, it wasn't my own head that came up with this. Something said to me, do singing workshop for adults. And I went, I'm a performer. I don't want to be a teacher. Like my mom is a singing teacher. She ran choirs. I was like, no, no, no, I'm not doing what my mom does. But I followed us because I had been meditating for a while and I had started to trust that inner voice that isn't always just us. It's like our higher self maybe, or it could be something else. Maybe we never know. I followed that thread and I tested it. I took, I did one singing workshop in February. I did a half day for men. Men who wanted to sing in March? I did another one in April, another one in may. And by July, August, I was doing one-on-one singing lessons, even though I didn't never completed my music degree. And I, uh, I was basically, I dunno, chancing my arm, as they say, at home in Ireland, but it allowed so much to happen for me. It's been an amazing journey. And, and COVID of course really stopped at everything because all of my stuff was I had a program called the secret singers concerts, where over, you know, eight weeks people would sing and learn their song and then do concert. So COVID changed everything as it did for everyone. But it's opened up a lot for me.

Pam:

Yeah. How did that shift happen for you? Like what did that, what did that create for you? That, I mean, cause, cause we've all been in that and I feel like I'm hearing a lot of those stories and then COVID hit and then everything got turned on its head. And then here we are with a whole new, a whole new opportunity really?

Aideen:

Yeah. It was, it was a tough time and I think everything fell apart and my income went way down and actually it happened the previous year I got married and she says, And I, I took my eye off the ball, but my work and I didn't have enough support. I didn't have an assistant or anything like that to help me keep moving things forward. So that was a starting point. Then my husband, didn't five months after we got married, he had an emergency heart surgery with a 5% chance of survival and he survived. And, but of course I was like, hell at work. I don't care. As long as I'm surviving, I just want to sit with my husband and watch movies with him while he recovers from. Very difficult time. And then his mom, we were living in Ireland at the time. His mom who lives in Michigan started letting us know that she was having some health issues. So less than a year after my, my husband and his heart surgery, we moved in the middle of a COVID pandemic. We moved back to, we moved to Michigan and moved in with my mother. So all of these transitions and all of this upheaval turned everything on its head for me. And it did slow things down, but it definitely opened things up because suddenly I was in the U S I realized I could have a U S clients, not just Irish clients. It was hard for me to get the Irish people onto the zoom. There was a bit of resistance there and I found that my, that my students and my people here in the U S were more. Uh, dedicated. They understood what I was doing a bit more. They understood the, the connection between singing and confidence. So my business is called confidence in singing so that through the singing that they could find themselves, that they could learn about themselves. Cause I believe that singing can be a tool and voice can be a tool for healing. And that was understood more. I started networking a lot in with holistic therapists and people like that in around the world. Australia and Ireland and in the U S a little as well. So yeah, I work from home. No, it's actually as Hyundai, don't have to go very far. I did my first group in person event, but three weeks ago, and it was a. Yeah, it was just weird. I was like, oh my God. I used to do this all the time. It was more nervous going in. I was like, debating, what will I do? What we do? Twinkle twinkle, little star or a rubber verbose, dah, dah, dah. I'm like trying to strategize. Cause we know when we're in the flow, things can be going quite well. But when we hit a full stop or a period, like in the U S language, when we stop, it does take a while to get things moving again. And I think we need to be patient with ourselves at those phases.

Pam:

Yeah. And it sounds like also for you, you hit a stop. There were lots of shifts and transitions, lots of things you had to kind of figure out, but it created an evolution. It created like this, this whole new component of the business and life and experience, and you had a choice, right? So kind of going back to where you were like, if I, what if I chose. To have singing me part of what I do. What if I chose to have more of that in my life? What if I said yes to that instead of no, to that, this is the same, another opportunity like that. Right. You could say. And, and there, I know many people that are like, oh, COVID a blew my business up. And so here I sit and I, I can't do anything now. You can choose to go down that path or you can choose to go okay, May I have to shift perspectives. I have to do something a little bit differently. I have to figure it out. And you embrace

Aideen:

that. You know, I think a lot of it is because we, we, we tend to be black and white about situations or logical about things. I love that phrase. You don't know what you don't know. Hmm. You don't know, you don't know. And I think most people don't know what they're capable of. Most people have no idea how much they could achieve in their life. And if you look back, like if you, I mean, I know you've had a big transition. If you look back at your life five years ago, Could you have known that you'd be doing what you're doing? No, no, no. So like when they're planning ahead and we're saying, oh, my five-year plan is dot, dot, dot that's based on the limited view that you have at that moment. So you have no idea what you can do in the next five years, Pam, who knows what you'll be doing in five years time. Yeah, I know that might be scary to a lot of. I think it is. I think that's one of the barriers is that's terrifying. I don't know. I'd rather have security. And so I'm going to stay at my nine to five working at the insurance company and we'll be good. I believe that as adults, we have to create a playground for ourselves. So it's almost, they talk about reparenting and you know that you look at your inner child and you give that inner child. But we can actually create a playground for our inner child, a safe playground for inner child. And to me, that means that you test the waters and that you consider that maybe in five years time, if you try to do a few things, not leaving your current job, but maybe. Teach a class to a few people are open to have a book club once a week, or, do fun things that you maybe, start a knitting circle if you enjoy crafts and knitting, but do something that opens up that new curiosity or that new passion or that that allows you to share your skill in some way with people that is the safe way to do that and do that. That you start to feel like, oh, I, maybe I could do this more and you can gradually make changes. Sometimes you will make a big change, but often to test the waters to make sure it's what you want. You can do things that aren't as.

Pam:

Yeah, I love when you said okay. I just want, like, when you were like, okay, higher self or source or whatever you want to call it, give me some direction and allow me to incorporate the use of my voice, the use of music, the use of singing into my. More so into my path, whether that's career, whether that's play, it doesn't matter, but bring me more of this. And you just kind of open those doorways, right? Because we, our own block, we closed the doors where it's us. Right. You even said

Aideen:

I want to be here. I can't do that.

Pam:

Right. So, I mean, we are the person who shuts down the, closes the door on ourselves and says, no, no, no, that's not possible. So what. Would've kept opening the door. What if he kept just saying huh, I wonder, I wonder what happened here. If I just opened the door, if it, instead of slamming shut and saying, Nope, not possible. Open the door and see what rolls in.

Aideen:

Absolutely. I was talking to someone and she was saying, I don't know how to do this. And I said, you don't know how to do it yet. You just add the word, Y E T to the end of any sentence like that. And you've suddenly put in the part of whether you don't know what you don't know. I truly believe that the talents that we have are part of that magic that we need to bring to the world, don't hide your light under the bushel kind of thing, but a lot of us, we don't trust the thing that we like is the thing that we're good at. We think that, oh, well, I'm really good at helping people design their CVS. So, I are their resumes. So, they like when I do that, I don't love it anymore, but you know, that's what they like. So I'll keep doing. When there could be a part of you going, well, I want to coach, I don't know. I want to coach CEOs, I've been working with people, starting their career. Maybe I need to be working know, working with someone else. So you don't know that you can't do that when you start off, unless you tell yourself I can't do that as a phrase, whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can't you're right. They might have been Henry Ford. This is important to acknowledge that most of the things that we're PR we're not doing, it's because we're stopping ourselves, but there are ways to move forward that aren't as scary.

Pam:

Yeah. What are some of those ways to move forward? That aren't as scary.

Aideen:

I think it's about talking, sometimes, you know what I would say, that's the least scary way to move forward is recent. So say my, my, I know I have a friend who wants to take out a job and I was suggesting that she tried to look for a certain type of job. Cause I know what her passions are. I said, how about you look up non-profits and charities that work with disenfranchised children or that work with families in trouble, dah, dah, dah, dah. Then she could spend maybe a week or two looking those things up and she'll pick, she'll have a little rabbit hole to go down that will bring her somewhere. So recently. Research the thing that you like find out more about it. When I was. Coming back to before I had started teaching singing again I actually took a singing lesson and this is after 20 years of singing. Like I knew I could stand up on the stage and sing a song, but I was at a practice. So I needed support. So sometimes, getting a coach or getting. A singing teacher or, buying the knitting magazine because you enjoy, you know what I mean, whatever your passion is, take a small step forward. That feels like you do want to do that. But part of you might be saying, what's the point. And I think that's the dangerous part because that's basically saying, well, there's no point because there's no light at the end of the tunnel, everything goes wrong. Why would I bother? There is light at the end of the time. But you might have to open your eyes to see it. Yeah. Sometimes you have to turn around. It's sometimes you're actually at the end of the tunnel are looking back at the tunnel. It's just about, your perspective of. Shift gears are pivotal. A lot of people said you drink cold, but they just had to pivot, but it takes a bit of mental flexibility to do that. But it definitely, there's a lot more possibility than we realize. We're I sometimes say we're nothing is certain. Anything is possible. Yeah, and to me, that's got a bit of excitement to it because maybe the thing that you would really is actually a possible yeah. I love that. And one of the things that you were talking about when I first hopped on was about

Pam:

drawing into your life. More

Aideen:

happiness. Yes. Uh, this was at great distance. This was a big shift in gears for me. So I'd been living with my mother-in-law for the last year and a half. And last November I came across something that. Probably heard a few times before from a coach who is based in Australia, Denise still feel Thomas. So she recommends this and this strategy called AF form Asians, like affirmations with an O instead. And there's a great book and it was devised. And so the guy who came up with it is a guy called Noah St. So I did a little course that Denise had. I heard her say this and for the first time, I think I'd heard it before. I decided I'm focusing on, on I'm really want to progress my life right now. I'm going to do this right. I bought the book for$13 on audible. He was speaking too fast. So I slowed them down. It's great to be able to do that. And I listened to his book and I did the exercises in his book. And so we, we know affirmations are supposed to be great for us, but how often do we not believe them? So if I had said, okay, if I wanted to be a singer, but I can't do that. If I went around saying, I am a singer, I am a singer, I'm a singer. And I still have that. I can't do that. I can't do that. It kind of combined in the back of my mind. That's not actually going to create change. So what he realized was that the brain's designed to ask. And when we ask a question, our brain was searched for answers, even random answers, you know, the way when you kind of think about something, you're like, oh, okay, where are my keys? I mean, you're not logically go you're not always logically going this room, that room, the other room. You're not always logically retracing your steps. Although you may do that as well. Sometimes. So that it pops into your mind because your brain will find it for you. So he based his system of affirmations on using an an affirmation as a question. So instead of saying, I am a singer, it would be, why am I a singer or this one's nice. Why is it easy and fun for me to be a singer? So I'd like to bring the ease and the font into us. Why is it easy for me to be a singer? Why is it possible for me to be a singer? Why is it fun for me? So you bring it down as much as you can. Why am I becoming open to the possibility that I could some point in the future become a Saint. But I just don't know how to yet. So you need to make it feel like there's something believable about it. You put in a, yet you put in a, maybe you put in a, it might be possible and that will bring it closer to you. And I started off with them saying to myself, why am I so unhappy living in my mother-in-law's house? And then I changed it to why am I happy living in my mother-in-law's house? And I didn't feel happy living in my mother-in-law's house Bush. I wrote it down and I said, okay, there it is. There's that question? My brain was like, I'm not finding any answers to that one right now. Right? You're in the middle of nowhere in Michigan. You're in COVID it's middle of winter. You're getting. You're surrounded by your mother's furniture, mother-in-law's furniture. She's, there's there's and I'm so far from home, from my, my, my mom, my own mom was going through tough times and speeding that separation. Anyway, what happened was within about a week, I started buying random things for the, for my. Office space. Like you see this here. This is so if, if, uh, you can't really see my office right now, but I bought like a decal thing. It's like a sticker, you stick it on the wall and it's trees and beautiful trees and kind of se green tea color. And it looks very mystical and magical. And I did that. So every time I look into my zoom, now I can see my trees behind me. I bought a globe like a globe that's in the beautiful, similar sea green color to remind me that the world's my oyster and, things aren't so far away. And I took an affirmation card from Gabby Bernstein's affirmation, uh, super attractor affirmation cards. And one of them was, I let my dreams catch. I let my life catch up with my dreams, something like that. And I put it in a frame and I put it somewhere that I would see it. And so these small changes that I suddenly was more open to working on. We're creating a shift in how I felt about being here in my mother-in-law's house. But one of my favorite ones was I'm just asking myself more often. Why am I so. And I even wrote a little power song with that in it. Why am I so happy? Why do my dreams come true? I actually prefer why do our dreams come true? Because I really love this inclusive feeling of we can all be so happy and we can all have our dreams come true. And it is possible. Why is it possible? Why might it be possible for our dreams to come true? Yeah.

Pam:

Oh my gosh. I love that

Aideen:

so much. It's just such an

Pam:

amazing perspective on, I have a, a woman that I work with that struggles with affirmations, affirmations, and mantras, because she's I feel like I'm lying to myself. Yes. And I love this, like this strategy. Okay. That's what it is. Right. It's strategy for looking at things from a different perspective and, and kind of making this shift. And yes, like from a neuroscience perspective, your subconscious mind wants to answer questions, which is why we find the answers to things. Even when we don't realize that we're seeking the answers to things, because we pose the question.

Aideen:

If you say to yourself, why am I so unhappy? Because I live with my mother-in-law because it's winter in Michigan and I can't go anywhere because COVID, you'll find a long list of reasons why you're so unhappy. And do you feel better after asking that question? So we did we think the question to ask is, why am I unhappy? You think you're going to come up with a good reason, and then you're going to be able to fix that reason, fix that I'm living in my mother-in-law's house. Fix that there's winter and Michigan. Those are things I can't fix, but if I say, why am I so happy? There's a chance that I'll come up with a strategy. I become more resourceful. Yeah. And your

Pam:

brain kind of tunes in your brain tunes into the things. That you have to be happy about that you have to be grateful for it. And it just sees more of them. It creates a snowball effect. It's like when you, when a new car comes out and you're like, oh, I like that car. I haven't seen that car anywhere. And all of a sudden, because you just tuned into that car now, you're like, there's 4,000 of them on the road. What is going on? I didn't even know this was a thing. I didn't know. This car existed. It's the same exact thing. It's what the neuropath is, what our brain is designed to.

Aideen:

Yeah, it finds patterns. Yep. Yep. So yeah, you do. When, if I say, why am I so happy? I'll find the reasons that I'm already happy. And sometimes it's as simple as I have my favorite cup of camomile tea and my favorite mug today. Yeah. Or that I know that I've booked a session for, with a massage therapist tomorrow deep something to forward to. So, yeah. But when we sing as well, I was going to say it was when we sing it something extra. Because our brains actually integrate from left to right side, more with music than any other thing it's been proven in the research, like a musicians, more of their brain lights up in problem solving than anyone. And that is about recruiting the whole self that's, like being holistic. It's like your whole self comes into play. So if you sing, why am I so happy? Well, I do our dreams going true. Anybody you can all steel that the first two lines of my power song or make up your own power song, yeah, why do I follow my dreams? Why is it easy for me to follow my dreams? And there's amazing songs, that that have some of that wording in there, when you wish upon a star, this isn't one of the hardest songs to sing. It was like low, high, low high. It makes no difference who you are. Your heart is can come to you. If your heart is in your dream, no request is too extreme. You wish upon a stung as tree stew. You have to bring this back to her childhood, totally.

Pam:

I was like, I just was transported by the way. I was like, whoa. Okay.

Aideen:

Yeah. Yeah. I think a lot of people stop listening to songs that inspire them. If you put the radio on and you're listening to those radio talk shows at the end of your journey in the car, how do you feel depressed? If you put on a Disney album, I can guarantee you, if you liked Disney music, you're going to feel better at the end of that journey. So those kinds of choices can be really important for our mental. And for our motivation for the future.

Pam:

Yeah. That's amazing. So what is the work that you're doing right now? So I know you're, there's the singing component and actually teaching people, singing, you also are doing some other stuff.

Aideen:

So I would say for me, I got very interested in, interested in the side effects of. And the positive side effects of singing are you become more confident. You have better posture, you get more oxygen to your brain, you increase your endorphins, you decrease your cortisol and you improve your lung health. You improve your immune system. Like it just, this list goes on. And so. Even in my singing classes, I will talk about kind of other stuff. I teach a mantra music as well, which is the yoga Sanskrit, or those kinds of things, which are really good. But what happened was I started doing intuitive voice coaching. So before I would do anything with any client had asked them how they were. And that would be my starting point that you, you said that you never planned anything. I believe in being present to the moment. So when you become very present in the moment you are you're guided. In my opinion, I feel like that students are that client. Indicates to me what the next thing should be, that I respond rather than, than create a plan for them before the session. And I found that I was doing weird things with my clients. Like I would be doing an intention or a visualization or a prayer even, depending on their faith background. We would talk about the songs they wanted to sing, if they wanted to sing. And if they didn't want to sing, we would talk about, uh, formations or, basically it's about shifting the energy. That's holding us back, it's about finding. Like creating space because a lot of the time our problems are like on top of us. And when they're on top of us, we can't find solutions. So we need to be able to step back from them. So talking about them is important because with the right people, people who see, as there is a way forward. So I studied something called divine mentorship with my, my mantra teacher in India which is about finding that. That light within you and trusting that light within you to guide you to your next steps. And to me, it's about following our joy. Joy to me is the key. We don't have enough joy in our lives often, and it's very difficult. I found that this co the COVID situation and the political situation means that. There's still this dark, maybe cloud over to one side. But if we don't find some joy in our lives, when we have our cup of camomile tea and our favorite tea bag and our favorite milk, if we don't experience the joy of that tea and we are overcome by the problems of the world or the problems of someone else having COVID is in, in another part of the world, then our, we have this imbalance with find it very hard to stay positive at all, and to function in that. So finding small pockets of joy and allowing ourselves to be happy to the extent that we can in a moment, like I would go swimming. So I was like, spend a few minutes just floating. And I was like, just a little sigh comes out. And I, we deserve those moments. When we're not in charge, we're not like looking down from above going, oh dear Ukraine and dah, dah, dah. That's not our job. Our job is to live the life that we have. And if you don't take that moment with that cup of tea and you're distracted by your mindset or about your worries, you're not really living, that's not being present to being present and allowing that feeling of contentment back in. I think that's a key to successfully.

Pam:

Yeah. And you talked about right now, you're talking about being present with your cup of tea, but you also talked about when your husband went through his health crisis, being able to be present with him by being able to be present in your relationships. Because when we learn how to be present with our cup of tea, it makes it much easier to be present with our kids, with our spouses, with our mother-in-laws or our loved ones or people in our lives are the people at the meeting that we don't necessarily want to go to, but we have to, right. It allows us. To be in that moment and more able to be in that moment. We can, we can experience the moments of joy,

Aideen:

definitely. And I think we need to feel fullness in our own lives. So if you deny yourself joy, you, you, you won't have anything to give to others. So one of, one of my previous colleagues used to say an empty sack can't stand. So you're, you're depleted in your life. If you don't have anything to look forward, If you don't give yourself the things that you need to survive, you don't look after your health. You don't go for the walk for your, that is good for your mental health and your physical health. How can you come home then and deal with your husband's problem that he had? No, it's so hard. So yes, it's like that idea of putting on your own oxygen mask first and then looking after others. But I think a lot of people have a big difficulty with that because they, their sole source of self sacrificing. They don't realize that that's not sustainable. Long-term that you have to be able to find. The positive things in your life, and you have to love yourself and give yourself the things that your body needs in order to help others.

Pam:

Yeah. Oh, that's so accurate. Or just had this conversation earlier, uh, with a friend of mine that like, especially as moms, as women in general, uh, the subset of women that is that our moms, right. Or that are caretakers even doesn't have to be a mom per se, but There's like this, I grew up in a Catholic household. There's this martyrdom, but it's my job to take care of all the things. And when all the things are taken care of, if I have any capacity for myself at the end of the day, then maybe it goes to me or maybe a good. Project that has to be done tomorrow for somebody else. And being able to just shift that, just being able to start to focus on me first, what do I need first? And that can be something as simple as like, how do I, how do I find, how do I set the intention today of finding more moments of.

Aideen:

And executive, even if you set the attention, like why, why is it becoming easy and fun for my family to, to find joy? Like, why is it easy for me to have fun with my kids? So maybe if you're not ready to have fun by yourself, ask yourself, how can I have fun? Why is it easy for me to have fun? My kids you'll find your, you go out and you'll play ball with them when they're playing, instead of trying to fit another load into the laundry. And you might find that you pay attention to them in a different way that you're like watching them and feeling oh my gosh, look at that kid. Like maybe six months ago, he couldn't do that thing or whatever it was. Uh, we, we do, if you ask yourself an affirmation, like why is my family. So fun or why, why are my kids learning to respect me more? Why is it becoming easier for, for me to find balance in my home and your brain will do that work for you. And I can guarantee you will get some answers that will help you to create that balance. It create that joy that you deserve. You, people listening might not realize that they deserve joy. I can tell you, I give you permission to have joy in your life. I want you to have joy in your life. I don't want to be the only one that is happy with her work and her, her living with her mother-in-law and happy with her husband and dah, dah, dah. I want that to be each of us. And I really think, we, we, we, we hold ourselves back, but you know, if you need my information to be here, You have a

Pam:

right. Like take it, take it go. Yeah. Yes. I love that so much. I love the,

Aideen:

the,

Pam:

the awareness and the understanding that all it takes is a

Aideen:

small shift. Right. It's just like a little

Pam:

tweaking of perspective of w w what is the lens I'm looking through? And that little, that the structure of the affirmation asking the question, like, why is this so easy? Why is this so fun? Why can I find this? You

Aideen:

know, uh, I think I have a list of my affirmations under my microphone. I can see if I can find some here, look at this. Why am I so passionate? I haven't read this in ages, but it's been under my microphone. Why are my boundaries so clear and calm? I think that's a great one. I love adding sweetness to things. Sometimes their endings can be really hard, so I like every ending to happiest sweet ending. So why are all the endings and the finishings sweet especially when kids finish high school, why could that ending be sweet? Why is it easy and fun for me to love life? Why is it fun to live my potential? And here's one. Why are my needs? That's a good one. Why is it easy for me to address the barriers to happiness? Both within and outside me? Why is it fun to create positive change? Why is it fun for me to complete my projects? I

Pam:

love those. I'm thinking, as you said, complete my projects. I'm thinking, why is it easy and fun for me to finish the backend on that website page that I have to work on this stuff and yeah.

Aideen:

Yeah, the stuff that we're all stuck in one way or another I have a book I wrote about singing like two years ago and I keep asking myself, why is it easy and fun to finish my book? And it still feels like I haven't quite found that, but sometimes things are a timing related. So it's all good. It's all good. We need to be able to forgive ourselves for not. Doing everything perfectly. I mean, if you were all perfect, we'd have to hate you all so perfect. So we can like you.

Pam:

Oh man. Yeah. That's so true. So where are you, where do you hang out online? Where can people find you if they want to get ahold of

Aideen:

you? My favorite place would be my, my Facebook group. It's called step into the spotlight with 18 and I teach a free mantra class. 20 minute mantra class there on a Wednesday morning, 8:00 AM Eastern. And I put my, my warmups in there, like a little warm-up practice every Tuesday. And more recently I've been posting a lot more on YouTube. I've been interviewing a lot of people around this subject of, finding our voices. And I brought together. Speakers for a summit just, uh, recently called the voice and song summit, get unstuck in business, using your voice. So I have some nice content from my speakers on LinkedIn. And I've been doing so much more posting lately. I have to tell you when you actually find something that you're passionate about, it's easier to post things on places, especially if you have a virtual assistant. So, I think I posted more in the last three or four weeks than I've done in a year previous to that. And so, yeah. And you know, this idea that we're going to annoy people with all my posts. I actually got most, most people saying, oh, it's nice to see you more on LinkedIn and dah, dah, dah that's. Okay. I get that kind of feedback. It's okay. Yeah, so, I mean, I have a podcast called the confidence in singing podcast. And yeah, there's, there's a few different ways to find me. I mean, my website's a good one, confidence in singing.com. And I do a free consultation. So if you're interested in, in, voice coaching generally without singing or you're interested in, in bringing more joy into your life, through singing, I'd be very happy to talk to any of your listeners and I'd be honored if you can contact at me, actually. Awesome. I

Pam:

will link all that stuff from the show notes. It's very easily. Pre-bill just click a button and

Aideen:

find you. Yeah.

Pam:

Thank you so much for being here. This has been fantastic. I'm like, I want to keep going for hours on end, but you know, all things have to come to an end at some

Aideen:

point, right. Ending or ending. So sweet.

Pam:

So guys, if you were listening in, anything stands out for you specifically, or things that you want to share with us, please, please, please hit the links in the show notes and share that with us because both I'm and I would. To hear from you. So thank you guys. Have an amazing week and I will see you all next week. Take care.